Important Themes

💕 February Theme: Healthy Relationships & Safe Boundaries

At Innovations Now, we believe independence isn’t just about jobs, routines, and community involvement — it’s also about relationships.

For the first two weeks of February, in honor of Valentine’s Day, we are focusing on:

❤️ Healthy Relationships

🛑 Safe Boundaries

Relationships are a beautiful and important part of life. Whether it’s friendships, family connections, coworkers, romantic interests, or community members — understanding how to build and maintain healthy relationships is a lifelong skill.

For many of the young adults we serve, these conversations are especially important.

What We’re Teaching

During this theme, we are working with clients on:

💬 What Makes a Relationship Healthy?

• Mutual respect

• Kind communication

• Listening to one another

• Feeling safe and valued

• Shared interests and support

We discuss what it feels like to be treated well — and how to treat others well in return.

🚦 Understanding Boundaries

Boundaries are rules we set to keep ourselves safe and comfortable.

We talk about:

• Personal space

• Physical touch (when it is and isn’t appropriate)

• Private vs. public conversations

• Online safety

• Saying “no” respectfully

• Accepting “no” from others

Understanding that “no” is a complete sentence is powerful.

🧠 Recognizing Red Flags

We also gently introduce:

• What it means if someone pressures you

• How to notice when something feels uncomfortable

• Who to talk to if something doesn’t feel right

We emphasize that trusting your instincts is important.

Why This Matters

Young adults with disabilities are at a significantly higher risk of experiencing unhealthy or unsafe relationships. That’s why proactive education is not optional — it’s essential.

Our goal is not to scare anyone.
Our goal is to empower.

We want our clients to:

• Feel confident forming friendships

• Understand what respectful dating looks like

• Know how to advocate for themselves

• Feel safe speaking up

• Recognize that they deserve healthy love and respect

Conversations at Home

Families can support this theme by:

• Talking openly about friendship and dating

• Modeling healthy communication

• Practicing boundary-setting language

• Reinforcing that their loved one has the right to say no

These conversations may feel uncomfortable at first — but they are protective.

Love Is More Than Valentine’s Day

Healthy relationships are not about chocolates or flowers.

They are about:

• Respect

• Safety

• Choice

• Consent

• Kindness

At Innovations Now, we are committed to equipping our clients with the tools they need to build meaningful, safe, and fulfilling connections in their lives.

Because everyone deserves relationships that feel good — not confusing, pressured, or unsafe.

Ask an Expert

💬 Ask an Expert: “I Love My Son… But I’m Overwhelmed.”

A parent writes:

“I love my son with my whole heart. He’s almost 6 years old and nonverbal. For over a year he has been vocal stimming for hours a day — a very loud, repetitive sound. I can tell it annoys other people. I cannot get him to stop.

It’s driving me insane. I’ve even had to see an ENT because of ear damage. I feel ashamed saying this, but sometimes I can’t stand to be around him because of the noise. I’m doing this by myself. I don’t have much help. I’ve talked to ABA, doctors, specialists — no one knows what to do.

I’m desperate. I love him. I just want to enjoy my son again.”

❤️ First — You Are Not a Bad Parent

Let us start here:
Feeling overwhelmed does not make you a bad mom. It makes you human.

Caring for a child with high sensory needs — especially without consistent support — can be exhausting physically, emotionally, and neurologically. The fact that you remove yourself when you feel overwhelmed instead of reacting impulsively shows incredible self-awareness and love.

You are trying. And that matters.

🧠 Understanding Vocal Stimming

Vocal stimming (or self-stimulatory behavior) is often a form of:

• Self-regulation

• Sensory input

• Emotional processing

• Communication

• Nervous system release

For many nonverbal children, vocalizations are not something they are choosing to “do to” others — they are something their nervous system needs.

That doesn’t mean it isn’t hard for caregivers.

Two things can be true at the same time:

• Your son needs the stim.

• You are overwhelmed by the sound.

🏡 A Practical Strategy: Create Safe “Self-Talk” Spaces

Instead of trying to eliminate the vocalizing (which can increase stress), try shaping where and when it happens.

Create designated areas in your home — and possibly outside — where your son can freely vocalize.

Have simple, consistent conversations with him such as:

• “This is your safe space.”

• “You can use your voice here.”

• “You don’t have to hold it in.”

It may take months of consistency, but over time many children begin to associate certain spaces with regulation behaviors.

This approach reduces shame while gently building boundaries.

🦷 Also Consider: Bruxing

You may want to consult a dentist to rule out bruxing (grinding back teeth). Sometimes what sounds like vocal stimming can also involve jaw tension or dental discomfort. A professional can evaluate whether anything physical is contributing.

🎧 And Now — Let’s Talk About YOU

You deserve support too.

Some tools that can help:

• Noise-canceling headphones

• AirPods Pro or similar devices

• Scheduled sensory breaks

• Short outdoor resets

• Safe monitoring via camera while you regulate yourself

Going to your car for a reset while watching him on video?
That is not failure. That is smart self-regulation.

You cannot pour from an empty nervous system.

🚨 When Frustration Feels Big

If you ever feel enraged, overwhelmed, or afraid of your reactions:

• Step away immediately (as you did)

• Put physical space between you and the trigger

• Reach out to a support person, even virtually

• Consider caregiver counseling or support groups

Chronic sensory overload is real. It affects your body and brain. Support for you is just as important as support for your child.

🌿 You Are Not Alone

Many parents privately experience this but feel too ashamed to say it out loud.

You said it out loud. That is strength.

Loving your child does not mean you enjoy every moment.
It means you keep choosing them — even on the hard days.

And you are doing exactly that.

If you would like to submit a question anonymously for our Ask an Expert series, send us a message. We are here to support families navigating real-life challenges with compassion, dignity, and practical strategies.

💙 Innovations Now, LLC
Supporting independence. Supporting families. Supporting the whole person.